Grief work versus continuing bonds: a call for paradigm integration or replacement?

In this paper we compare grief work and continuing bond models of grief to determine if one explains the data better than the other. Sixty individuals in active grief completed a questionnaire in which they were asked to rate their grief status, perceived similarity to the deceased along 7 dimensions, and closeness of relationship to the deceased. A matched control group was also asked to rate the closeness of relationship and perceived similarity to a living person of the same relationship as the deceased to the griever. In line with grief work, we found that perceived similarity was directly related to severity of grief and that perceived closeness of relationship declined over time. In support of continuing bonds, however, perceived similarity did not decline over time, nor was overall perception of similarity among grievers different from their matched controls.