"What do I know?": perspectives on what must not be known when change means loss

Some patients use many ways of not knowing and so not feeling murderous rage at actual and internalized parents they long for and are terrified of losing. They stubbornly resist the liberating psychoanalytic changes that they consciously seek. Hope, promise, and success have come to threaten unbearable loss and catastrophic anxiety. These terrible expectations must become responsibly felt and owned by the patient.