Intentions in teasing: when "just kidding" just isn't good enough

Justin Kruger1, Cameron L Gordon, Jeff Kuban

  • 1Department of Marketing, Stern School of Business, New York University, New York, NY 10012, USA. jkruger@stern.nyu.edu

Summary

Teasing is often misunderstood. While teasers intend playfulness, targets perceive malicious intent because mitigation cues are frequently missed, leading to differing perceptions of the social interaction.

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