Linking hearts and minds in couple interactions: intentions, attributions, and overriding sentiments

Robert J Waldinger1, Marc S Schulz

  • 1Department of Psychiatry, Brigham and Women's Hospital, and Harvard Medical School, Boston, MA 02215, USA. rwaldinger@partners.org

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