When goal sharing produces support that is not caring.

Heather Barry Kappes1, Patrick E Shrout

  • 1New York University, New York, NY 10003, USA. heather.barry@nyu.edu

Summary

Setting personal goals for a partner's success can backfire, leading to unhelpful support and hindering the partner's own achievement. This research explores the impact of partner-achievement goals on relationship dynamics and individual outcomes.

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