Sexual desire discrepancy: the effect of individual differences in desired and actual sexual frequency on dating

Brian J Willoughby1, Jennifer Vitas

  • 1School of Family Life, Brigham Young University, 2081 JFSB, Provo, UT 84602, USA. brian.willoughby@byu.edu

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