Limitations to the capacity to love

Otto F Kernberg1

  • 1New York Presbyterian Hospital, 21 Bloomingdale Road, White Plains, New York 10605, USA. okernber@med.cornell.edu

Summary

This study explores challenges in forming loving relationships, linking difficulties to psychopathological conditions like masochistic, narcissistic, and paranoid personality traits. Clinical examples show varying capacities for mature love.

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