Getting straight about grief

Acute grief is emotionally intense, cognitively preoccupying, and disruptive, but grief is not an illness; major depression and anxiety disorders are. Grief and mourning have a purpose. They provide an intense, focused opportunity to reregulate emotion and to engage in a learning process that is aimed at reconfiguring life without the deceased—both the internal life of the mind, and ongoing life in the world. A bereaved person needs to figure out how to find meaning, purpose, joy, and satisfaction in life without someone who has previously been central to these feelings. This reconfiguration is a very natural process that tends to occur in fits and starts as bereaved people move forward and deal with everyday life. Nevertheless, a knowledgeable, empathic and supportive clinician can foster good adjustment. Successful mourning is, however, not a given. For some people, the mourning process is derailed and acute grief is inordinately painful and prolonged. For others, the stress of bereavement triggers the onset or worsening of symptoms of MDD, an anxiety disorder or another psychiatric or medical condition, suicidality or negative health behaviors. Clinicians need to be alert to all of these problematic responses to loss. In the wake of bereavement, we need to both facilitate effective mourning and diagnose and treat co-occurring conditions.