What Children Wished They Had/Had Not Done and Their Coping in the First Thirteen Months after Their Sibling's

JoAnne M Youngblut1, Dorothy Brooten1

  • 1Nicole Wertheim College of Nursing and Health Sciences, Florida International University, Miami, Florida, USA.

Insights

Children wished they had spent more time with siblings and not been mean. Coping strategies included talking to others and resuming normal activities after a sibling's death.

Area of Science:

  • Child Psychology
  • Bereavement Studies
  • Pediatric Critical Care

Background:

  • Limited research exists on children's post-sibling death regrets.
  • Understanding children's wishes and coping mechanisms is crucial for support.

Purpose of the Study:

  • To examine children's wishes regarding actions before and after a sibling's death.
  • To explore children's coping strategies following a sibling's death in NICU/PICU/ED settings.

Main Methods:

  • Qualitative data from a longitudinal mixed-methods study.
  • Interviews with 6- to 18-year-olds at multiple time points post-death.
  • Conventional content analysis of responses to open-ended questions.

Main Results:

  • Children wished for more time with siblings, more positive interactions, and to have saved them.
  • Regrets included being mean, arguing, and suppressing emotions.
  • Coping involved talking, playing, remembering, crying, and resuming activities.

Conclusions:

  • Children express significant wishes about their interactions and actions concerning deceased siblings.
  • Talking to others and returning to routine activities are key coping mechanisms for bereaved children.

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