Having a Baby: Impact on Married and Cohabiting Parents' Relationships

Maggie O'Reilly Treter1, Galena K Rhoades1, Shelby B Scott2,3

  • 1Department of Psychology, The University of Denver, Denver, CO, USA.

Family Process
|July 19, 2020
PubMed

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Having a baby significantly impacts relationship stability and quality. Cohabiting parents face higher breakup rates and lower satisfaction post-childbirth compared to married couples.

Area of Science:

  • Psychology
  • Sociology
  • Family Studies

Background:

  • Parenthood transition is a critical period for couple relationships.
  • Research often examines married couples, with less focus on cohabiting unions.

Purpose of the Study:

  • To compare the effects of childbirth on relationship quality and stability between married and cohabiting parents.
  • To analyze trajectories of relationship satisfaction, commitment, and communication.

Main Methods:

  • Longitudinal study with 179 parents (38% cohabiting) providing data before, during, and after pregnancy.
  • Interrupted time-series analyses to assess changes in relationship dynamics.

Main Results:

  • Cohabiting parents experienced significantly higher breakup rates post-childbirth.
  • Negative communication increased for all parents after having a baby.
  • Married parents reported higher initial satisfaction and commitment, with subsequent declines; cohabiting parents remained consistently lower.

Conclusions:

  • Childbirth presents distinct challenges for cohabiting versus married couples regarding relationship stability.
  • Gender influences commitment trajectories, with women showing declines post-childbirth.
  • Findings highlight the need for tailored support for couples navigating parenthood.

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