Polite Speech Emerges From Competing Social Goals

Erica J Yoon1, Michael Henry Tessler1, Noah D Goodman1

  • 1Department of Psychology, Stanford University.

Summary

Polite language use, often imprecise, arises from balancing three goals: conveying information, kindness, and self-presentation. A probabilistic model accurately predicts these choices in social situations.

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