In the fields of psychology, psychiatry, and psychotherapy an understanding of manipulation can be found that often looks one-sidedly at the psychopathologies of a manipulator. Manipulation is often depicted as a deficient, egoistic form of communication that deceives and pressures the manipulated. However, in this paper, we aim to explore a more nuanced understanding of manipulation as a form of influence that can be both toxic and benevolent. To do so, we will use the arena of love as a field of experimentation, which offers opportunities to make meaningful distinctions regarding manipulation on the basis of different forms of love. We conclude that love is compatible with a benevolent manipulation.