Navigating parenthood in the face of amyotrophic lateral sclerosis: A qualitative exploration of partner experiences

Among people diagnosed with Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), there are parents with children living at home. Children in families experiencing severe illness are exposed to stress and health risks. Since 2010, healthcare personnel in Norway must assess whether patients have children under 18 years of age and make sure the children's needs for support are met. A child's ability to cope with family life affected by a serious illness depends on how the parent without the disease manages the situation. Little is known about how the partner of someone affected by ALS manages being next of kin and a parent simultaneously, and what kind of support they need.

During 2021-2022, six semi-structured interviews were conducted with partners to persons with ALS, whom had children living at home. The interviews were transcribed verbatim and analysed through qualitative content analysis.

Three themes with subthemes emerged: (1) Together, yet alone; (a) restricted home life, (b) missing the sharing of responsibilities and tasks as equal parents, and (c) caught between children's and partner's needs; (2) Experience of coping while waiting for death; (a) cherishing the moments, (b) sense of coping and concern, and (c) ensuring to get recharged; and (3) Support in times of need; (a) difficult to ask the network for help and (b) the healthcare system does not see the whole family.

Our respondents felt alone, caught between the needs of their children and partner, without necessary support from the services, and were left to handle everyday life with all new challenges on their own. Future healthcare services need to consider the challenges faced by families dealing with life-limiting illnesses. A family-focused perspective is needed, so is peer support and interventions that address both emotional and practical aspects of life with an ill partner.