Differentiating between romantic and mature love: Revisiting the three caskets

John Steiner1

  • 1British Psychoanalytical Society, London, UK.

Summary

Accepting the reality of death is crucial for transforming romantic love into mature love. Embracing an ironic perspective helps in mourning losses and appreciating romance without literal belief.

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