"I could have": The lived experience of bereavement-related regret

Allison Y Yang1, Derrick W Klaassen1, Kaori Wada2

  • 1Department of Counselling Psychology, Trinity Western University, Langley, Canada.

Death Studies
|May 15, 2025
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