How Does Rejection Feel? Explaining Victims' Reactions to Social Rejection From the Perspective of Self-Conscious

Irene Castro1, Saulo Fernández1

  • 1Universidad Nacional de Educación a Distancia (UNED), Madrid, Spain.

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