Love as Calculation: The Internalized Rationality of Digital Intimacy and the Erosion of Social Flow

Jiaxin Jiang1, Chunli Ji1, Tian Zhao1

  • 1Centre for Gaming and Tourism Studies, Macao Polytechnic University, Macao 999078, China.

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