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Jiaxin Jiang1, Chunli Ji1, Tian Zhao1
1Centre for Gaming and Tourism Studies, Macao Polytechnic University, Macao 999078, China.
Abstract:
As neoliberal rationality permeates private life, romantic relationships are increasingly managed as calculated projects rather than spontaneous, autotelic bonds. Drawing on Self-Determination Theory (SDT), this study examines how calculative subjectivity is associated with diminished social flow-the state of dyadic synchrony-within intimate relationships in the context of contemporary societal involution, a state of hyper-competition and intense social comparison. Analyzing data from 402 Chinese digital natives via PLS-SEM, we reveal that calculative subjectivity demonstrates a substantial negative association with social flow, statistically mediated through internalized cognitive rationalities (regret aversion, sunk cost sensitivity, self-monitoring) and external behavioral distractions (partner phubbing). Specifically, the "market-in-mind" correlates with a substantial cognitive barrier alongside the physical interference of the "device-in-hand." These findings are theoretically consistent with the philosophical critique regarding the "agony of eros," suggesting that a prominent barrier to authentic intimacy in the algorithmic age is not merely technological mediation, but the internalized instrumental rationality that colonizes the human mind.
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