Ambivalence towards parenthood among pregnant women and their men

369 pregnant women and 345 expectant fathers visiting antenatal clinics were examined by a questionnaire concerning attitudes towards pregnancy and parenthood. Data were processed by factor analysis and the degree of agreement to important factors was estimated. Attitudes were dominated by two conflicting views: children mean existential satisfaction and children mean restriction of freedom for women as well as for men. There was a tendency to deny the items concerning the disadvantages of having children. An important factor in the women's as well as in the men's analysis was the importance of own parents as models in parenthood. The findings from this unselected population of pregnant women and their men are consistent with earlier in-depth interviews. It can be concluded that ambivalence should be regarded as a normal constituent of the adaptation to pregnancy and parenthood. Experiences of own parents play an important role in the transition to parenthood. An important task for the medical profession should be to inform about ambivalence as a normal phenomenon as it, left unaccepted, may cause unnecessary anxiety and feelings of guilt.