Social acceptance and self-esteem: tuning the sociometer to interpersonal value.

Danu B Anthony1, John G Holmes, Joanne V Wood

  • 1Department of Psychology, University of Waterloo, Waterloo, ON, Canada. dbanthon@uwaterloo.ca

Summary

Self-esteem is linked to traits that gain social acceptance, which varies by social role. Appearance and popularity are key for most, while communal roles prioritize traits like kindness.

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