The missing tombstone: reflections on mourning and creativity

Anna Ornstein1

  • 1Harvard Medical School and Boston Psychoanalytic Institute. a2727b@aol.com

Summary

Mourning after multiple traumatic losses differs from single loss, often leading to delayed grief. Memorial spaces help survivors process profound pain and remember, which is crucial for healing.

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