Barely here to begin with and not-so-goodbyes: keeping the faith when working with turbulent patients

Some patients are unable or unwilling to step into the difficult and uncharted explorations that psychoanalytic work entails; in this paper the author shows how the effort to establish analytic contact with each individual can provide a level of valuable support, containment, and growth for many patients. Such patients may display great resistance to the challenge of psychoanalytic treatment, subtly inviting the analyst, through projective identification processes, to succumb to countertransference acting out. These turbulent patients often leave treatment in very abrupt and unprocessed manners. It is suddenly all over and that is that. This abrupt dismissal is usually a continued expression of the remaining pathology and conflictual phantasies that had been played out in the transference throughout the span of the analytic process. We cannot always prevent this. Rather than seeing this as a complete failure, we can try to maintain ourselves within the depressive position by realizing we are being used by turbulent patients as provisional placeholders and temporary containers. This is a model of grieving in which we acknowledge and accept what we cannot have, what we are not, and what should be but is not. Struggling with these issues in the countertransference is critical to our ability to help such patients because these are the exact issues the patients cannot bear in their lives. And, if we cannot bear them, then the patient has no hope of ever surviving them.