The realities of relationship failure

Robert P Dunbar1

  • 1Department of Orthopaedics and Sports Medicine, University of Washington and Harborview Medical Center, Seattle, WA 98104, USA. dunbar@uw.edu

Summary

Early-career surgeons face significant relationship stress due to career demands. Recognizing and addressing these challenges is crucial for marital health, with divorce being a potential outcome requiring strong support systems.

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