Reflections on widowhood and its effects on the self

Malkah Tolpin Notman1

  • 1Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and Training and Supervising Psychoanalyst at the Boston Psychoanalytic Institute in Boston.

Psychodynamic Psychiatry
|February 22, 2014
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