A long journey towards polyamorous bliss

SUMMARY The author describes how her life has evolved over two decades from lesbian coupling which mirrored a traditional heterosexual marriage, to increasingly unconventional styles of relating. An open primary relationship was the first step away from monogamy, followed by stages of casual sex with multiple partners, a long-distance bi-coast-al romance, being the "other woman" to someone with a primary partner, and finally, seeking multiple committed relationships. The question of how to maintain privacy while sharing honest communication is a theme throughout these different involvements.