[How to talk about a serious event to a child?]

Marie Leray1, Gilbert Vila1

  • 1Unité de psychopathologie de l'enfant, centre de victimologie pour mineurs, hôpital Armand-Trousseau, Hôpitaux universitaires Est parisien, Paris, France.

La Revue Du Praticien
|September 3, 2020
PubMed

Insights

Talking to children about serious events like abuse or disasters is challenging. Focus on the child's individual variables, not external pressures, to mitigate potential trauma and support their understanding.

Area of Science:

  • Child Psychology
  • Clinical Psychology
  • Trauma Studies

Background:

  • Discussing serious events with children presents significant challenges.
  • Concerns exist regarding the potential for causing trauma in children.
  • Parental and societal pressures can complicate communication.

Purpose of the Study:

  • To explore effective communication strategies when discussing serious events with children.
  • To analyze factors influencing a child's response to distressing information.
  • To differentiate approaches for various traumatic scenarios.

Main Methods:

  • Presentation of two clinical case studies involving child sexual abuse by a father.
  • Comparative analysis of contrasting case evolutions.
  • Discussion of additional scenarios: bereavement and the COVID-19 pandemic.

Main Results:

  • Child-specific variables are more critical than external pressures or event urgency in managing reactions.
  • Individualized approaches are essential for each child's unique circumstances.
  • Effective communication requires sensitivity to the child's developmental stage and emotional state.

Conclusions:

  • Prioritizing the child's individual variables is key to navigating difficult conversations.
  • Tailored communication strategies can help prevent or minimize trauma.
  • Understanding child development is crucial when disclosing serious events, including abuse and public health crises.

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