Self-essentialist reasoning underlies the similarity-attraction effect

Charles Chu1, Brian S Lowery2

  • 1Questrom School of Business, Boston University.

Summary

Self-essentialist reasoning explains why similarity leads to attraction. Believing shared traits stem from an inner essence makes us like similar others more, fostering a sense of shared reality.

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