"The ball is in his court. It's up to him": Parental communication about meritocracy

Lauren Kinnard1, Rashmita S Mistry1, Luke McGuire2

  • 1Department of Education, University of California, Los Angeles.

Developmental Psychology
|October 6, 2025
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