Some observations on the process of mourning.

Otto Kernberg1

  • 1New York Presbyterian Hospital, 21 Bloomingdale Road, White Plains, New York, NY 10605, USA. okernber@med.cornell.edu

Summary

Mourning involves lasting psychological changes, not just temporary grief. This study reveals how loss permanently alters internal object relations and ego functions, impacting life significantly.

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